Friday, February 20, 2009

Celebrating Life


I am full of joy this morning. It is Friday and I am looking forward to a lovely shabbat. This is an also an auspicious time of year for me. My birthday, the anniversary of my conversion and my marriage all occur within the next 2 months. The past year has been so chock full of firsts I sometimes can't believe it even though I lived it. I was looking at my blog and I realized that I never even mentioned one of the biggest events of the year...after marriage and conversion...my honeymoon in Israel. It was an amazing experience. We went with our synagogue on what the Rabbi calls"A Mission to Israel"
Here are a few pictures...I will post more another time...I will let the photos speak!
























Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Looking Back..."What is God?"



I was doing some "pre-Spring" cleaning....and came across my box of pre-conversion notes and research. Prior to my conversion I had engaged in many many spiritual and Jewish learning activities. A major activity was a class held by the The Hillel Institute, a collective endeavor supported by the Conservative synagogues and organizations of Long Island NY.


My then husband to be and I went every week, for both a Hebrew lesson and a lecture. this went on for months....some was interesting, and enlightening some confusing and difficult. At the end of this process there was a written test made by the Biet Din. I can't put into words my initial reaction to the concept of a "Jew" test! First I rebelled "how could they test me!..only god knows what the right answers are" I was worried then dismissive but it all was just because it had begun to mean so much to me. My conversion and subsequent marriage was all I could focus on and this test was the gate keeper.


As I re-read what I had written, I smiled....and thought I guess I will post this! (Another one of the questions is posted on the side-bar of this blog).....so here it is...


Brief Essay Questions


1) What is God?

A brief essay on “What is God’ appears to my mind to be an impossible task. Mankind has been struggling with this question since the first humans gazed at the night sky, or felt confused by the changing seasons. Many great thinkers, philosophers, theologians, psychiatrists, scientists have struggled with this question. I greatly question my ability to leave a mark on this, one of the greatest unanswerable questions of mankind. Perhaps a more aptly phrased question might be “What does mankind think about God? or “How do the Jewish people perceive God?”

The closest version to a unified code of Jewish beliefs and a definition of “What is God?” that I could find appears to be Rabbi Moshe Ben Maimon’s the “thirteen principles of faith.” This is a commentary on the Mishnah, which distilled the 613 commandments of the Torah into a concise list. Within that list, a generalized answer to the question “What is God?” emerged.
God is one and unique, God is incorporeal and God is eternal.
Yet even these basic statements by Maimonides have been debated and disputed and can not be taken as a unified statement of the Jewish people.
In the “Book of Jewish Concepts”, by Philip Birnbaum, a modern philosophical heir to Maimonide’s, “thirteen principles of faith,” (Hebrew Publishing Co. New York, 1964), the “What is God?”question is answered in the following way:
"The attributes of God include omnipresence, omniscience, omnipotence, eternity, truth, justice, goodness, purity and holiness”
The Chasidism, a sect dating from the 1700’s emphasized other, more personal experiences and mysticism as alternative routes to experiencing and defining God. This sect originated in a time of persecution of the Jewish people when many Jews became quietly focused on studding Torah. The founders of Chasidism felt that most expressions of Jewish life had become too academic and that they no longer had any emphasis on spirituality or joy. Their emphasis on the holiness of all experiences allows for another point of entry into the question “What is God?”
For the Chasidism, God not only encompasses the entire world, but that the entire world exists within God. They state that God existed before the world was created and that God is not changed or affected by the world. God’s existence is completely not affected by the happenings of the world. God never changes but humans do. They indicate It is in the daily expressions, events and activities of man in which God manifests and ultimately is defined by mankind.
Another approach to the “What is God” question is that of Mordecai Kaplan, the American rabbi and founder of Reconstructionist Judaism. He stated that “God is the power that makes for salvation.” Kaplan stressed that God is not personal, and that all anthropomorphic descriptions of God are, at best, imperfect metaphors. Kaplan's theology went beyond this to claim that God is the sum of all natural processes that allow man to become self-fulfilled.
And for my last example, in the kabalistic book “God is a Verb” Rabbi David Cooper writes about God as being a process not an object or subject. Clearly this view of God removes all possibilities of traditional definition.
In the end it appears that the answer to the question “What is God” is a personal answer informed by ones own theology, philosophy, psychology, ancestors and experiences. I do not pretend to have an answer but rather tend to lean towards the experiential definition of God. I believe that God is in our actions, as well as in our intent to do good and to help. God is in our sorrow and our pain, and our empathy for others with the same. I believe that ultimately God is in our ability to transcend hate, and evil with aspirations to find peace in all the moments of our lives.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Anniversary of the Dunk!


What can a girl say…"girl” is being kind to myself…none the less, the first week of April is the anniversary of my formal conversion… Yet what I have grown to understand about my “conversion” is that conversion is an ongoing exploration. It is a way of life, a way of engaging fully and Jewishly (not a word…but it works for me!)


During the dead of January on a day when there was no Bat/Bar Mitzvah my husband and I went to Saturday services. We go most every week, either to the Friday evening or Saturday morning. Well there was hardly anyone there….We often have very full services, but the cold and no celebration left only the hardy few. I love it at those times, I feel most connected and contemplative. When we completed the Shama for the 2nd time I turned to my husband and said “I feel Jewish today.”


Feeling Jewish appears to be a big hurdle in convert circles. More or less I have been feeling more Jewish, but the larger challenge of late was the war. Being a pacifist at heart, (all that Buddhist Meditation truly wore off on me) The pain and suffering of all …and I mean all, weighed heavy on me. Our congregation was very active in rallies etc…but it didn’t feel right to me…I felt like a woman without a home….I felt Jewish and wanted Israel to be safe, but felt sad about the loss of life and hatred all around. My husband and I got into some heated conversations and it was difficult. But what I came away with is I did feel and do feel Jewish. What a gift…..


So now as the anniversary looms ahead of me I am considering what I should do to commemorate the event. Any ideas?

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Prayer

May all beings be happy and peaceful
may they be safe and develop the mind of loving kindness
may they overcome hate and fear and dwell in equanimity

Friday, December 12, 2008

The December Delima






Three weeks ago I posted the below on two different list serves/blog forum sites which are for persons considering or who have converted to Judaism. I found the answers/responses to be very interesting. Some were quick and harsh, others were maternal and empathitic. All comments were helpful to me.


hello all,
it is that time of year again, and I could use some advice,help resources.I am in my second marriage (just got married in April and formally converted just shortly before the marriage) My only child, 20 year old daughter was raised in a religiously eclectic way. Unitarian Universalist with strong emphasis on both Jewish and Christian ritual. He father, my ex, is Jewish but is anti religion.My conversion has basically caused the cancellation of Christmas for my daughter. this has caused some tensions, last year my then soon to be husband and I got a tree.It was his first, he is a fairly observant conservative Jew. It is important to note that for most of my child's life I had strong Martha Stewart/Rachel Rae energies!...so the decoration thing was something I enjoyed and was a family event. My divorce was the beginning of a transformation of me, that has caused many emotional changes for all of us and my daughter sometimes has felt orphaned because I was not the same...not fair but just the way it is. She has had professional help, but now we are at the center of the change again. Christmas. she wants a tree, has begged for a tree. I feel bad for her, but if left to my own wants, I would not do a tree....I feel split. she has accepted so much, has been there and remained engaged....yet I feel I am betraying my new life if I get it, the tree...HELP



so I came up with the compermise....Katie has a "tree"......


what do you think!

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Shinning Light




I entered the mikveh by choice. Thus my connection to Jewish history, and rituals is deeply felt but also informed by intense study. I have no personal Jewish history, my history is Jewish history. I read the stories of heroic women and men, of times of strife and pain, joys and miracles. I struggle with a feeling of bereavement, why had I not found my true home earlier…why was my path so long? Hashem alone knows that answer…I do not spend much time questioning history that has no human answer, I have too much to learn!
I have become aware that I get briefly tearful when I hear stories of childhood memories of candles and challah, but rebound with joy with the help of the collective warmth of our tradition. Lighting Shabbat candles is more than an obligation, a mitzvoth to be adhered to. Lighting the candle connects me to our history, our stories our covenant. It is both a deeply personal meditative experience while it is also my public declaration…” I am a Jew”

poetry



“The Yoke of Joy”


I watch you pray
Book in hand
Words tumbling out
In an amazing array of surging song and muttered whispers
Wrapped in the cloth of your father’s father
My eyes fill with tears
Centuries of devotion on my love’s lips
As you gently finger the strands reminding you of who you are
My heart sings along Although I can’t yet form the words.


“Sisters/ Brothers” December 2008

Strangers to me, thousands of miles away
The little boy
The picture of the happy couple
My heart tearing at each updated report
Sorrow and anger dancing in me
I feel the pain of my Jewish sisters, my brothers
The wheel turns once again
The covenant is complete
What the mikveh started blood has finished
I will light the candles, remembering not what is known
But knowing what has been given
Today I am a Jew

Dunking Rachael

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